The question is rhetorical, of course. I have friends who had their babies pierced at their three-month checkups. But it is something we’re dealing with right now, so I’m asking.
We were on the way to my Mom’s house when Big Girl brought it up: “When can I get my ears pierced?” My husband and I are on the same page with this one. We both agree that ear piercing — at least for our girls — is something to put off a bit. My reticence comes from my own experience. Before my dad died he had decreed that I had to wait until I was 13 to pierce my ears. He didn’t like little girls to wear earrings. When he died my mom honored his wishes. I’d like to carry on the tradition.
My husband is more ambivalent, but he thinks that Big Girl is not necessarily an ear piercing candidate. She’s got a low pain threshold, and she is a nudge. Since he is the person who finger combs her hair every morning (and gets treated to screams and howls of pseudo-pain), I would personally feel bad for him when he has to twist her earrings and apply alcohol to her crusty ears.
Okay, so she asked. We both looked at each other and told her it was something that she was going to have to wait on. “But all the girls in my class have pierced earrings,” she wailed. Sigh. As I opened my mouth to ask her if we always do what other people do she jumped in. “I know we don’t do what everyone else does, but I want them!”
So then came the logic. It hurts initially. There is a lot of upkeep in the beginning: the aforementioned three times daily earring twisting and alcoholing. The possibility of infection. The daily pain during twisting. The fact that she screams if she gets a papercut. She howled at every point. She was not convinced.
The discussion ended because we got to our destination, but I know it’s not over. It will come up again. My husband says that maybe we make it a goal. Something she can strive to attain. And to that I say, I am not convinced. Will she be responsible enough to handle the daily upkeep? Will she even make it past the first hole? Once you do one you HAVE to do the second. Can she deal? I don’t know. But I do know that the old adage (Little kids, little problems. Big kids, bigger problems.) — is definitely true.
Do you have a little girl? If so, did you pierce her ears? When? If not, why not?