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The Bugs Got the Eggplant

Every Tuesday we get our organic vegetable share. It’s always so exciting — what will be in the box this week? The farmer has a blog that highlights recipes and gives a little background about the crops: what’s coming, what’s going on, how they are getting along. This week’s newsletter contained the following:

We were hoping to include basil in the shares this week, but we noticed a black fuzz on the bottom of the leaves when we started picking it this morning. We have later plantings that we hope will look better! And eggplant would usually start appearing in the shares around this time, except we lost the crop to the potato beetle earlier in the season.

I haven’t been able to get that out of my head all week. They lost two plants due to mold and bugs. Two. And yet the newsletter was very matter-of-fact. There was no bemoaning what could have been, or complaining about what was. (And no me, losing an entire crop to bugs seems like pretty bad news.) Nope. Instead of complaining the farmer looked to the future. The next crop, they hope, will look better. What an awesome way to think. How peaceful. How smart!

When something doesn’t go as planned in my house, I tend to freak out. I get agitated. I get sad. Looking at some of my more recent disappointments (losing an hour of work because Big Girl was having an off afternoon, for example) I realize I definitely overreacted.

Was it really annoying and upsetting that Big Girl has issues transitioning sometimes? Yes, it is. Does my heart ache for her when she works herself into a tizzy? Absolutely. But in the scheme of things aren’t kids just like a crop? They grow based on the water and nutrients we give them. But sometimes, just as my CSA’s farmer found out, even with the best of tending they sometimes produce some rotten vegetables. But you don’t give up on the crop. You don’t freak out. You give them more sunshine, more love and you chalk it up to weeds that sometimes grow around our thinking. (A weird analogy, but a true one. Who among us doesn’t have weeds obscuring the strong roots of common sense in our heads?) And of course, you try and pull out those stubborn, unwanted weeds. You provide alternate ways of thinking about an experience. You let the kid cry a bit. You help them adapt so the next time those weeds can’t put down roots.

Because the alternative — losing the entire crop because it hates you for being a bad farmer — just isn’t an option.

Ahhh, the weekend. After a busy week at work it couldn’t be coming at a better time. This week I wrote seven stories, and I have one more to write tonight. Yes, all my paid work is sucking up time I would normally be blogging. That said, I’m going to try and post more frequently next week. Hope you have a great weekend filled with sunshine and very little “natural fertilizer.” (You know…the S word.)

Oh, and BTW: This post is how I am participating this week in Food Renegade’s Fight Back Friday — an awesome campaign to get people eating real food again.

One Response to “The Bugs Got the Eggplant”

  1. Aunt Kim says:

    Big Girl has her moments like you and I did. She’s an amazing little girl who is loved by everyone in the Dell household. Don’t be too hard on her or yourself. We all have our moments. Kiss them both for me.

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