Comments on: My Kid is Louder Than Your Kid http://naturalaspossiblemom.com/2010/my-kid-is-louder-than-your-kid Because natural isn't always possible -- or easy. Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:37:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Christine http://naturalaspossiblemom.com/2010/my-kid-is-louder-than-your-kid/comment-page-1#comment-443 Christine Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:23:07 +0000 http://naturalaspossiblemom.com/?p=1331#comment-443 I'd give you what I think is the right advice, ignore it, except the problem I have with my child (same age) is that she ignores me. So, I'll keep my advice to myself and be just as perplexed as you are. I’d give you what I think is the right advice, ignore it, except the problem I have with my child (same age) is that she ignores me. So, I’ll keep my advice to myself and be just as perplexed as you are.

]]> By: Suzanne http://naturalaspossiblemom.com/2010/my-kid-is-louder-than-your-kid/comment-page-1#comment-440 Suzanne Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:10:57 +0000 http://naturalaspossiblemom.com/?p=1331#comment-440 I have a screamer-boy do I! However, this is my 22 month old daughter who is delayed in language (that or lazy, haven't figured that out yet). She's stubborn as an ox, luckily so am I, understands everything but is frustrated and or having a temper tantrum. Hands balled in fists, arms rigid at her sides, all body stiff as a board and she opens her mouth and SCREAMS, SCREAMS, SCREAMS her head off. Seriously awesome parenting moments and sometimes it's annoying and sometimes I am empathicitc since her frustration is palpable. Now my son is a ripper. Rips books, stickers, pretty much anything. I've tried to give him paper to rip so it's sanctioned, but it doesn't matter. Yesterday morning he came and told me he had ripped all the foam pieces off the front cover of his book (he'll be four at the end of the month). I took all the library material, books and movies back, since I want him to know that if he can't be trusted he can't borrow other peoples things. I have removed privileges, sent to bed early, taken all the books away but it's not working. Plus my daughter now wants books so I can't take them all away anymore. Oh and they both officially suck when it comes to any writing impliments. My white couches, walls, buisness invoices can all attest to their abuse :( Any suggestions welcome!!! I have a screamer-boy do I! However, this is my 22 month old daughter who is delayed in language (that or lazy, haven’t figured that out yet). She’s stubborn as an ox, luckily so am I, understands everything but is frustrated and or having a temper tantrum. Hands balled in fists, arms rigid at her sides, all body stiff as a board and she opens her mouth and SCREAMS, SCREAMS, SCREAMS her head off. Seriously awesome parenting moments and sometimes it’s annoying and sometimes I am empathicitc since her frustration is palpable.

Now my son is a ripper. Rips books, stickers, pretty much anything. I’ve tried to give him paper to rip so it’s sanctioned, but it doesn’t matter. Yesterday morning he came and told me he had ripped all the foam pieces off the front cover of his book (he’ll be four at the end of the month). I took all the library material, books and movies back, since I want him to know that if he can’t be trusted he can’t borrow other peoples things. I have removed privileges, sent to bed early, taken all the books away but it’s not working. Plus my daughter now wants books so I can’t take them all away anymore.

Oh and they both officially suck when it comes to any writing impliments. My white couches, walls, buisness invoices can all attest to their abuse :(

Any suggestions welcome!!!

]]> By: susan delg http://naturalaspossiblemom.com/2010/my-kid-is-louder-than-your-kid/comment-page-1#comment-437 susan delg Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:20:01 +0000 http://naturalaspossiblemom.com/?p=1331#comment-437 Karen, we've all been there. It's the hardest thing to walk away or put up the wall when the screaming starts, especially when you're in public. That tough veneer that deflects the screams can look so cold to someone who doesn't know what's going on. Stay strong! I used to tell Joy that the only excuse for that kind of noise would be that she was seriously hurt. And yes, we have a book of fables in the house and read the wolf one incessantly and bring it up often at home. We also have a book of fables about very strong women that reinforce strong behavior. (will get the title for you later, it's a good one.) I've also found that threats that I don't intend to go through with are useless. Once I give an answer, it's not going to change. (No more cookies, turn the TV off, you may not shave the cat, etc.) The "if you do that one more time, I'm going to _____" threat has to be followed up on. So I try to make myself think and be reasonable because I know I have to do it if I threaten it. Karen, we’ve all been there. It’s the hardest thing to walk away or put up the wall when the screaming starts, especially when you’re in public. That tough veneer that deflects the screams can look so cold to someone who doesn’t know what’s going on. Stay strong!
I used to tell Joy that the only excuse for that kind of noise would be that she was seriously hurt. And yes, we have a book of fables in the house and read the wolf one incessantly and bring it up often at home. We also have a book of fables about very strong women that reinforce strong behavior. (will get the title for you later, it’s a good one.)
I’ve also found that threats that I don’t intend to go through with are useless. Once I give an answer, it’s not going to change. (No more cookies, turn the TV off, you may not shave the cat, etc.) The “if you do that one more time, I’m going to _____” threat has to be followed up on. So I try to make myself think and be reasonable because I know I have to do it if I threaten it.

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